Deal with the emotions that cause debt woes
I think that We all know Suzy Orman. She’s made a tremendous name for herself as America’s personal finance guru. Suzy does it with a twist. Experience has taught her our finances are powered by our emotions. Money is not a dry, dusty thing—but a power tool to carve out what you choose.
Our knowledge, choices, character, and emotions will define the end product. It will be distressed, and it will be sand-blasted by circumstance, but whether it will be a thing of integrity or a flimsy house of cards will be mostly decided by us. We can tell many are making the wronf choices as evidenced by the plethera of issues such as debt consolidation, debt help, credit counseling and other types of debt management in general.
Suzy relates the story of an association public relations director who is petrified to tell his wife that he has run up $10,000 worth of computer equipment on their credit cards. She cites an editor at a scientific organization who is too ashamed to admit that she doesn’t have the funds to go on their yearly holiday shopping spree with her friends. These are only two cases in millions of a similar nature. We all know dozens, don’t we? All in all, that is why you see so many shocking cases of debt consolidation or credit counseling as well as general debt relief among even those people with excellent salaries, while so many folks live paycheck to paycheck, or run up a big CC debt and then try to solve the issue with debt consolidation, credit counseling or some other form of debt help in general.
Suzy speaks of fear, shame, and anger as being typical emotions surrounding money. Typically we are not even aware of the reasons, the emotions behind the way we handle money.
Suzy—I call her that because she just makes you feel like she would be a good friend—has been quoted as saying, “People really do not have a clue at all. They think the reason they are miserable — that they are an emotional wreck — is because they have absolutely no money. They honestly think that if they had more money… they would have )many less) problems. The problem is that it’s not true at all……”
Like a power tool, money just exists and has no life of its own until you plug it in and use it. Many of our other cultural gurus like Wayne Dyer tell us that what you put your attention on is the thing that grows. We tend to think if we worry and focus on how much we want, desire—how much we do not have—that will spur us to make more money, but our subconscious hears that as lack, as need, as frustration and pain, and that just automatically produces more of the same.
When we focus on the power in this life that we do have, when we put our attention on that for which we are grateful, when we treat money with respect like we would a power tool that can be a great service to us or do us great harm—then we grow more power, more control, more feelings of abundance and freedom. If that were to happen, I am sure we would see a lot fewer cases of debt consolidation and other forms of debt relief as well in our society as a whole.